The Golden Phoenix Girl: almost-emma: THINGS I WILL NEVER DO: shame you for your body...



  • shame you for your body weight
  • shame you for your skin color
  • shame you for your sexual orientation
  • shame you for your self-harm and/or psychological disturbances
  • shame you for liking your favorite bands, shows, hobbies, etc.
  • leave you when you…
Saturday Jun 29 @ 11:29pm

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Saturday Jun 29 @ 11:07pm
The Golden Phoenix Girl: RED FLAGS someone's hiding abuse
RED FLAGS someone’s hiding abuse

Scan the following list for warning signs of abuse.

Most of these are true both for victims of domestic partner abuse and for child abuse. No one sign is conclusive, but the more of the following the person experiences, the more likely that abuse is the cause:

  • depression 
  • confusion about feelings towards possible abuser (some days they’re the greatest person in the world, other days they’re the opposite.)
  • unexplained physical symptoms of fear or depression, such as headaches, stomach aches or general pain
  • anxiety 
  • poor self-esteem
  • being overly compliant/eager to please or trouble saying “no”
  • difficulty concentrating/often distracted  
  • insomnia or nightmares
  • having been abused, previously, even by someone else
  • never has cash 
  • exhibiting fear of the suspected abuser
  • acting easily startled or jumpy
  • eating disorders
  • excessive alcohol or drug use
  • self harm (e.g. “cutting”)
  • difficulty setting boundaries with others (is often taken advantage of)
  • frequent apologizing 
  • (in females) traditional gender role models
  • financial dependency on suspected abuser
  • suicidal ideas/attempts/thoughts 
  • feelings of responsibility for the relationship/partner 
  • "accident prone" (has many small bruises or marks that are explained away)
  • don’t make spontaneous decisions on their own, often has to “check in” first
  • wearing heavy foundation at random intervals or inappropriately warm, covering clothing
  • high absence rates at work/school
  • isolation: rarely goes out and spends all free time with suspected abuser 
  • complains of frequent yeast infections 
  • unusually self-conscious about body
  • moves frequently 

(reblog to make abuse more visible to others!)

Saturday Jun 29 @ 11:06pm
Tuesday Jun 18 @ 01:03pm
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  • The original post only has US helplines. I've added UK helplines underneath. It would be great if people could add numbers from everywhere in the world.
  • Depression Hotline: 1-630-482-9696
  • Suicide Hotline: 1-800-784-8433
  • LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255
  • Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
  • Sexuality Support: 1-800-246-7743
  • Eating Disorders Hotline: 1-847-831-3438
  • Rape and Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673
  • Grief Support: 1-650-321-5272
  • Runaway: 1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000
  • Exhale: After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253
  • Child Abuse: 1-800-422-4453
  • ** UK Helplines:
  • Samaritans (for any problem): 08457909090 e-mail
  • Childline (for anyone under 18 with any problem): 08001111
  • Mind infoline (mental health information): 0300 123 3393 e-mail:
  • Mind legal advice (for people who need mental-health related legal advice): 0300 466 6463
  • b-eat eating disorder support: 0845 634 14 14 (only open Mon-Fri 10.30am-8.30pm and Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail:
  • b-eat youthline (for under 25's with eating disorders): 08456347650 (open Mon-Fri 4.30pm - 8.30pm, Saturday 1pm-4.30pm)
  • Cruse Bereavement Care: 08444779400 e-mail:
  • Frank (information and advice on drugs): 0800776600
  • Drinkline: 0800 9178282
  • Rape Crisis England & Wales: 0808 802 9999 1(open 2 - 2.30pm 7 - 9.30pm) e-mail
  • Rape Crisis Scotland: 08088 01 03 02 every day, 6pm to midnight
Tuesday Jun 18 @ 01:02pm
Tuesday Jun 18 @ 01:02pm
The Golden Phoenix Girl: newcommandings: When someone tells me they can see me as a rape victim...


When someone tells me they can see me as a rape victim for the ‘flirty’ or ‘promiscuous’ behavior/tone/whatever of who I am, I know that there is a true issue with how people think.

I’m a rape survivor because I encountered a rapist, not because of the way I talk to people. I am not a rape victim because I am out going, loud, straight forward, bold, or whatever traits you believe will make me a ‘slut’ or invalidate my rape.

Tuesday Jun 18 @ 01:01pm
One of the most amazing things that can happen is finding someone who sees everything you are and won’t let you be anything less. They see the potential of you. They see endless possibilities. And through their eyes, you start to see yourself the same way. As someone who matters. As someone who can make a difference in this world. Susane Colasanti (via onlinecounsellingcollege) Tuesday Jun 18 @ 01:01pm
COUNSELLING BLOG: 10 Types of Emotional Manipulators


1. The Constant Victim - This kind of individual will always finds a way to end up as a victim in their relationships.

2. One-Upmanship Expert – This person uses put downs, snide remarks and criticisms, to show that they’re superior, and know much more than you.

3. Powerful…

Tuesday May 14 @ 12:50pm



  • “I’m being abused.”
  • “I was abused.”


  1. “I believe you.”
  2. “This matters a lot. I care.”
  3. “It’s not your fault.” 
Tuesday May 14 @ 12:43pm

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